Just do

I’m in a lot of adoption/infertility groups online and it’s incredible the different stories that people are experiencing. I’m lucky to live in the United States, a country where adoption is accepted and normalized. I’m also grateful that my husband and I came to the decision to adopt. There are so many what ifs that hold people back, but our ability to communicate openly and make choices together is something I’m very proud of.

Many social factors make Korean women feel pressured to place their babies for adoption. When I think of that it just boggles my mind. It’s sad. Another quote besides the one above that always gets me is “A child born from another woman calls me mommy. The magnitude of that tragedy and the depth of that privilege are not lost on me.” Everyday I’m grateful that we were matched with our child but it’s bittersweet because his mother had to suffer. One day if our child wants to meet his birth mother, I will do everything I possibly can to help him. And if she is willing or not willing to meet us, I hope that I can help my child through the emotions that come with either scenario.

Throughout this process, people still say to me, “maybe you’ll get pregnant. I believe in miracles.” But it’s a miracle that we went through this lengthy and exhaustive process and that strangers in a room overseas matched us with the most beautiful baby boy I’ve ever seen. Adoption is a miracle and I hope that people who are thinking about it or hesitate in anyway, at least give it a try. There are so many routes to adoption. It’s possible for anyone. It is a beautiful way to grow your family.

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